Boundaries keep us from straying from our priorities so we can say, “Yes” without resentment and “No” without regret. We live in a very busy world. Like many people I know, I always want to maximize my time and my experiences. I want to live a full life, so I don’t have any time to waste.

Unfortunately, I frequently catch myself complicating this process.

I often try to add way too many things to my day, in an attempt to enhance my experience and elevate my mood. However, the result is the opposite: I don’t enjoy the experiences and get cranky along the way.

Simplicity is the key for me. If I don’t work on slowing down and making very conscious and well-thought-out decisions, I end up running around lost in my own chaos.

Over-commitment is very restrictive, and I must be very disciplined about the way that I start my day. If I don’t start my morning in a mindful way by slowly easing into the day, meditating, and exercising, I end up in a frenzy very quickly. FOMO gets the best of me. I have excitement ADD and find myself tired and overextended way too often.

This commitment to simplicity includes communicating clearly with people around me regarding what I need, what my boundaries are, and the time commitments I can make. I base these decisions on my values, and I try not to act out of a false sense of obligation. Everything I do aligns with who I am, where I want to go, and what (and with whom) I want to experience.

I want to have time for the people I love, and I want to have time for the things that matter to me. Additionally,  I want to be engaged and involved in projects and opportunities that make an impact in this world. I want to be a game-changer, and for that, I need space to create and be present.

When I stick to my gut instincts and communicate my boundaries in an appropriate way, I create space for myself. I am no longer at the mercy of the world, constantly overwhelmed and running out of time.

Here are three simple questions I ask myself to stay on track:

  1. What takes priority?
  2. In order to move me forward, what needs to get done?
  3. What is not important and can be let go?

I try to focus on one thing a week that moves me forward and one thing a day that I want to accomplish. I consistently prioritize, de-prioritize and shift things on my calendar based on opportunities that may arise spontaneously, so that I can keep and create conscious space for what matters.

Yes, I actually color code my calendar, so my priorities are very clear to me at any given time.

And, interestingly enough, none of this happens if I don’t ground myself in the morning. It’s a remarkable trend I have observed.

Every day when I wake up, I ground myself with meditation. When I start my day with gratitude, clarity, and inspiration to evaluate the day that lies ahead, I stay on track throughout the day. On days when I rush out of bed, I very quickly end up exhausted and overcommitted.

So I’ve learned to trust this process.

Consistently and constantly, I am checking in with myself throughout the day. I determine whether my actions are still in line with who I want to be, how I want to show up, and what I want to experience, so I can be at maximum efficiency to myself and the people around me.

At the end of the day, I check in with myself to see if I’m actually acting on what I set out to do. I determine if, where, when, how, and most importantly why I got distracted.  Then, I make a plan for the next day.

Try it. 😉 You might surprise yourself.

Much love,

Silvia  Christmann