I’m not one of those people for whom things are easy.
I don’t get lucky, and nothing in my life tends to just fall into place. I work hard at everything I do. My life is more of an obstacle course than anything else.
I don’t know why. My guess would be that a lifetime of nomadic living doesn’t lend itself to predictable outcomes.
Trust me, I’ve tried figuring this out. I’ve been soul searching, deep-diving into past lives, karma, tried all the best life hacks, tools, and habits to avoid complications. I learned how to listen to my inner guide and honor synergy. I was assured it would result in a smoother journey. Success would come to me.….
…AAANNND ALL those efforts have so far only shown marginal improvements – which is fine with me.
I developed some skills in the process.
As a result, I got really good at pivoting my ideas, faster at adjusting my strategy, stronger at climbing over hurdles, and more gracious when dusting myself off after I stumble and fall.
Am I the only one who fails to manifest their smooth journey and has to constantly climb over massive hurdles? I don’t think so. I think a lot of you experience this as well.
- Do we hide our struggles out of shame?
- Is it socially unacceptable and spiritually uncool to have a shit day?
- Doesn’t it alienate us? Or worse, do we end up not going after our dreams for fear of the risks involved and possible exposure as a failure?
- Are we trading our dreams for a world of unfulfilled desires?
- Do we choose safety because we are afraid to get lost?
I don’t know about you, but I can tell you about me.
I always go for the challenges. I love the adventures of the heart and sometimes I walk way too far outside my comfort zone. I’ve developed a habit of constantly leaving behind familiarity and comfort. AND THAT CAN BE HARD!!!
I think too much and I feel too much. Sometimes, that drives me crazy. I try and make an effort to maintain daily habits to keep me present and grounded because without them, I run the risk of constantly trying to escape my thoughts and feelings.
My daily practices consist of gratitude, curating positive mental attitude, meditation, and introspection through yoga– I find it makes a huge difference. My practices can vary, mostly due to changes in the geography and community around me.
This works most days. However, there is no such thing as perfection. I still lose my balance, my temper, and myself more often than I care to mention. I can still find myself completely lost. I can be lost in my thoughts, lost somewhere in the world, and lost in my emotional landscape.
And guess what? I don’t think there is anything wrong with that.
It’s okay to feel out of control.
It’s okay to feel disoriented.
It’s okay to feel disillusioned.
It’s okay to not be happy for a day.
It’s okay to be frustrated.
It’s okay to lose your shit from time to time.
….it can all be a catalyst for something new!
This is not a big deal. Things change. I change. My needs and desires change. If I’ve learned anything these past few weeks, it’s these 4 things:
1. Embrace the unknown
The more I learn, the more I realize how little I know and how much more there is out there. The sooner we let go of dated beliefs, habits, and patterns – the easier it is to navigate the unknown. Remember that yesterday’s medicine might be today’s poison. If growth is the name of the game, then I must consistently put myself in a mindset where I learn from every situation. A change of perception is necessary in most cases of disarray. There is always something new to learn, always another road to take, and always a new perspective to gain. And no, this doesn’t have to be a fun and easy process. It’s okay to be messy.
2. Get clear with your tribe
It’s easy to thrive in a community of like-minded people. It’s hard to communicate needs in a place where your values aren’t met. Learn how to communicate clearly rather than acting out your needs. Transparency and communication are the foundation for personal growth. Then, find a place where that is reciprocated. Good communication requires us to have the courage to stand emotionally naked in front of people, and make sure it’s a safe space. Staying vulnerable is what sets us free from shame and allows us to wholeheartedly start over. Stop pretending you are fine. Say what’s going on and call it what it is. We are never alone in this. There is strength in numbers.
3. Let it fall apart
Sometimes we need to let everything fall apart. Let go of your beliefs, your habits, and your patterns. Let life change you. Allow your ideas of yourself to shatter into a million different pieces…
…and then pick up only what you still truly want to keep.
Nothing is a dead end. Obstacles are opportunities to reroute, while failures are building blocks. Success is a stepping stone to the next level of self-discovery. Therefore, we are never stuck. We only get stuck on how we see it. Don’t resist challenges. Lean in and let go, or be dragged!
4. Surrender to the moment
What does it mean to surrender anyway?
It is a state in which we stay open to change, not assuming we have the answers. We are allowing life to unfold. It’s a mental, emotional, and physical space in which we take a step back to evaluate our choices.
How do we get there?
Go inwards first and let the outside dismantle itself. Sometimes when we do nothing, synergy will return and offer up opportunities that have more ease and flow to them.
Is the alternative route always what we want?
Not at all. However, following the path of the least resistance, while embracing light and love, is always the better choice. In my experience, it has always brought me gifts beyond my imagination.
So get lost, fall apart, say yes to life, and live beyond your wildest dreams!
Lots of love,
Life is an opportunity, benefit from it.
Life is a beauty, admire it.
Life is a dream, realize it.
Life is a challenge, meet it
Life is a duty, complete it.
Life is a game, play it.
Life is a promise, fulfill it.
Life is sorrow, overcome it.
Life is a song, sing it.
Life is a struggle, accept it.
Life is a tragedy, confront it.
Life is an adventure, dare it.
Life is luck, make it.
Life is life, fight for it!
~ MOTHER TERESA