You can’t just walk into a room and say, “What’s up everyone!” at your workplace, especially if you’re thought of as a leader. It might not go too well. However, if you want to get to this place with your employees, there are ways you can have effective communication and still inject a bit of humor and fun into it.
After all, everyone likes a leader they can relate with, trust in, and count on.
There is a lot that goes into workplace communication and by understanding the communication model – you might not just learn how to effectively communicate, but also how to effectively lead your team.
The Leader Has to Take Control of Difficult Conversations
Unfortunately, as a leader; you’re the one that has to take ownership of any difficult conversations in the workplace. There are steps you should take to ensure that you’re handling the conversation appropriately, but also that you’re steering it in the right direction.
Check-in with yourself! Harness the energy inside yourself and recognize if you’re upset or worried about something else that might upset this separate conversation more. Can you easily change perspectives during the conversation?
Know the environment. Know if they’re open to communication dependent on how you provide it through speaking, email, phone, etc. You also want to make sure it is during the right time, at the right place before diving into it.
Consent! Make sure you have consent to have a conversation, give and have feedback heard. You want to work in the right conditions and having consent is important.
Here are some helpful phrases to start the conversations:
Are you open to talking about this right now?
Are you available for a conversation about….?
Are you up for a chat about…..?
If no: when is a good time that would work for you?
If still a no: Leave it alone. You cannot make anyone grow against their will.
I do NOT recommend starting a conversation by asking if you can give them some feedback. It doesn’t leave room for anyone to converse. It’s more effective to ask powerful questions and lead a difficult conversation that includes feedback.
Resolving Conflicts in the Most Professional Manner
Any conflicts should be handled with professionalism and diplomacy. The relationship style that you choose to use is what will make or break your professionalism, track record, and relationships with your employees.
It is important to note that there are communication styles that can kill any relationship – even well-maintained relationships are at risk. Dr. John Gottman shows us the following…
- Criticism – verbally attacking the personality or character of someone.
- Contempt – attacking a sense of self with the intention to insult and psychologically abuse the person.
- Defensiveness – playing the victim to ward off the perceived attach and reversing the blame from them to someone else.
- Stonewalling – withdrawing as a way to avoid conflict in an effort to convey disapproval, distance, and separation.
These communication styles cause more harm than good, and they are not an effective way to communicate – both in and outside of the workplace.
So, remember this…
If the conversation is difficult, tense, or sensitive
- Ground yourself
- Take control of the situation
- Stay calm, clear, and effective – know your end game
- Listen intently and focus on the employee’s emotions
- Utilize your problem-solving skills to resolve any conflict effectively
What if you, yourself become triggered or upset during a conversation?
- Check-in with yourself
- Pause before speaking to maintain clarity and poise
- Walk away if you have to
- Keep yourself under control during this time, remain level-headed, and know that your feelings are validated (so are those of the other person)
Releasing these negative feelings on your own time is healthy, but unraveling and unleashing them on someone else is not.
They are just feelings, not facts. Don’t allow your feelings to derail a conversation or injure your workplace relationships. Having your feelings under control during a tense conversation is the only way to resolve conflicts and come to a mutual understanding with your colleagues and employees.
Listening generously is one of the best ways to create more meaningful communication. Listen completely, with empathy and understanding. Listen for what the person really wants and needs.
What opportunities are generated from this conversation? What steps should you take next after carefully listening to the other person?
Use this information while listening to lead the individual and help resolve the problem that you and the other person are facing. There are several techniques available that you can use to have a strong conversation. These will be discussed below in practical strategies for technical communication.
There are also many positive communication tools that you can use to boost your team’s morale, while also making you into a stronger leader overall.
Practical Strategies for Workplace Communication
There are a number of practical strategies for communication that should be considered. By harnessing the power of both listening and positive communication practices; you’re building your team up for success. You’re giving them the power they need to excel in the company and elevating your team.
Start with Powerful Questions That Reframe Your Game
Start off on the right foot by showing that you’re an effective leader. Asking strong questions is the best way to show that you’re capable and to keep your business running efficiently. Good questions show that you were listening intently while showing your stance on important subjects. When asked well, high-quality questions are the most efficient way to resolve issues in your business and to keep your employees and colleagues moving forward with what needs to be done.
Some strong questions include, but are not limited to:
Problem-focused: What is the problem?
Solutions focused: What would you like to do about this? What can I do about this?
Problem-focused: Why did you do that?
Solutions Focused: What made you decide this was the right step?
Problem-focused: Why is this an issue for you?
Solutions focused: What do you suggest we do differently?
Problem-focused: Why didn’t you do this?
Solutions focused: What additional information can I provide to complete this task?
Problem-focused: Who is to blame? Where did you find this?
Solutions focused: How can help?
What you can do during a conversation to really keep it going, but also to gain and hold leadership include, but are not limited to:
- High-quality questions. Validate the other person’s feelings while maintaining a positive solution-focused mindset.
- Good questions. Ensure that everyone is effectively communicating while leaving you in complete control of the situation.
- Listening. Listen to what they say and then validating (not just agreeing) their feelings and empathizing with them is the most effective form of communication in the business world and in everyday life in most situations.
- Make an effort to relate. Relating with the individual is another useful way to build trust and understanding.
Tip: Use stories explaining similar situations that you’ve been through to relate and to show that their current feelings are valid and you’ll create a bond with the person at the same time.
Be careful to avoid spending too much time on stories about your past experiences though. While it’s good to relate with the individual, the conversation should still focus on their problems the majority of the time.
Maintain a solution-focused dialogue with the other person, and spend most of the time addressing their feelings and the current situation. This is all a part of effective communication in the workplace.
Should I start a conversation if the other person is agitated?
No. You want to have the right environment to start any conversation in. You want to have consent, but also ensure that everyone is level-headed before starting talking.
Will effective communication help my team be more productive?
Yes. Your team will be much more productive and effective when they have an open line of communication with each other, but also with their leader.
Should I practice and know the right questions to ask ahead of time?
Absolutely. Using this guide can help you come up with the right starters, as well as feedback, and additional information you need to make the most of your conversation.
HOW CAN EXECUTIVE COACHES HELP WITH EFFECTIVE COMMUNICATION?
Providing you with the kick-ass skills you need to lead your team, executive coaches offer the best advice to leading and keeping hold of those conversations that might otherwise be tough. As an executive coach teaching numerous tactics to leaders, I can provide the essentials you need to really drive your team together and continue the communication necessary to be the driving force of the company.